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Huda
04-05-2002, 03:15
[updated:LAST EDITED ON 04-05-02 AT 03:19 AM (GMT)]The Ideal Muslim

(An Excerpt from the Conclusion of the Book “The Ideal Muslim: The True Islâmic Personality of the Muslim as Defined in the Qur’ân and Sunnah”)

By Dr. Muhammad ‘Ali Al-Hashimi


Translated by Nasiruddin Al-Khattab and Revised by Ibrahim M. Kunna and Abu Aya Sulaiman Abdus-Sabur Copyright and published by the International Islâmic Publishing House (IIPH), Riyadh, Saudi Arabia in 1999.


The Muslim as Islâm meant him to be, is a unique and remarkable person in his attitude and conduct and in his relationships and dealings with others at all levels. Throughout his long history, man has never been given the components of a virtuous and integrated personality such as Islâm has bestowed upon the Muslim through the divine guidance contained in the Qur’ân and Sunnah.

Islâm does not concentrate on filling men’s minds with philosophical ideas as the Greeks did, or on excessive dream-like spirituality as the Indians did, or on physical training and perfection as the Romans did, or on self-serving materialistic philosophies such as exist nowadays in both East and West. Islâm drew up a balanced, integrated program for man’s development, taking into account his physical, intellectual and spiritual needs, based on the sound principle that man is formed of body, mind and soul.

The personality of the Muslim is perfectly integrated and balanced, and no aspect of it is overtaken by others, as happens in other societies where man is brought up under imperfect manmade systems which all too often are governed by selfish desires, reprehensible innovations or deviant ideas. The Muslim as has been explained in this study, is obedient to Allâh , follows His guidance, seeks His protection, accepts His decrees and always seeks to please Him.

The Muslim personality is balanced. He pays due attention to his body’s needs and his outward appearance, without letting it distract him from taking care of the inner characteristics, as befits man whom Allâh has honoured, made His angels prostrate to him, and subjugated for his benefit all that is in heaven and earth. Rather, the Muslim is also concerned with that which will form sound intellectual development and ways of thinking, so that he will understand the nature and essence of things. He does not forget that man is not only composed of a body and a mind, but that he also possesses a soul and a spirit, and feels a longing for higher things that makes him rise above this materialistic life and scale the heights of goodness, virtue and light. Therefore he pays as much attention to his spiritual development as to his physical and intellectual development, in a precisely balanced fashion, which does not concentrate on one aspect to the detriment of others.

With his parents, he is an example of sincere filial piety, good treatment, infinite compassion, utter politeness and deep gratitude.

With his wife, he is the example of good and kind treatment, intelligent handling, deep understanding of the nature and psychology of women, and proper fulfillment of his responsibilities and duties.

With his children, he is a parent who understands his great responsibility towards them, which is, as well as flooding them with love and compassion, to pay attention to anything that may influence their Islâmic development.

With his relatives, he maintains the ties of kinship and knows his duties toward them. He understands the high status given to relatives in Islâm, which makes him keep in touch with them no matter what the circumstances.

With his neighbour, the true Muslim is an example of good treatment and consideration of others’ feelings and sensitivities. He puts up with mistreatment and turns a blind eye to his neighbor’s faults while taking care not to commit any such errors himself. He always adopts the Islâmic attitude whereby treating neighbours well was made a basic principle of Islâm, so much so that the Prophet thought that Jibrel would make his neighbour his heir. Therefore he never does anything bad to his neighbour, nor does he fail in his duty towards him; rather, he does not spare any effort to do favours for his neighbour, without expecting any favours, reward or thanks in return.

His relationship with his brothers and friends is the best and purest of relationships, for it is based on love for the sake of Allâh and this pure, sincere, brotherly love derives its purity from the guidance of the Qur’ân and Sunnah. Hence it became a unique network in the history of human relations.

From these strong bonds and deep love emerged a group of the best attitudes and characteristics, which make the true Muslim a wonderful example of humanity, in whom are embodied the values and morals of Islâm. He is loving, not cold, towards his brothers and friends; he is loyal and does not betray them; he is sincere and does not cheat them; he is gentle and never harsh; he is tolerant and forgiving, and does not bear a grudge or stab in the back; he is generous and prefers others to himself, and he prays for them in their absence.

In his social relationships with all people, he is well mannered, civil and noble, characterized by the attitudes which Islâm encourages. These are not the matter of superficial politeness, which conceals ulterior intentions, aims and goals. Rather it is the ongoing good behaviour which is taught in the Qur’ân and Sunnah, and which Islâm has made a religious duty for which man will be brought to account.

The Muslim is truthful and sincere with all people. He does not cheat, deceive or betray. He does not envy others. He fulfils his promises. He had the attitude of shyness. He is tolerant and forgiving. He is cheerful. He is not pushy. He is patient. He avoids slandering or uttering obscenities. He does not unjustly accuse others of fisq or kufr. He is shy and modest. He does not interfere in that which does not concern him. He refrains from gossiping, spreading slander and stirring up trouble. He avoids false speech and suspicion. When he is entrusted with a secret, he keeps it and does not disclose it. He is modest and never arrogant. He does not make fun of anyone. He respects his elders and those who are distinguished.

He mixes with the best of people. He is keen to do good to people and protect them from harm. He strives to reconcile between the Muslims. He calls others to the way of his Rabb with wisdom and beautiful preaching. He visits the sick and attends funerals. He returns favours and is grateful for them. He mixes with people and bears their mistreatment with patience. He tries to make people happy as much as he can. He guides people to do good. He always likes to make things easy and not to make them hard.

He is fair in his judgements. He does not oppress others or play favourites. He is not a hypocrite or a sycophant or a show-off. He does not boast about his deeds and achievements. He is straightforward and is never devious or twisted, no matter what the circumstances. He loves noble things and hates foolishness. He does not exaggerate in his speech or puff up his cheek with pride. He is generous and does not remind others of his gifts or favours. He is hospitable and does not complain when a guest comes to him. He prefers others to himself as much as possible. He relieves the burden of the debtor. He is proud and does not think of begging. He knows that the upper hand is better than the lower. He gets along with people and they feel comfortable with him. He measures all of his habits and customs against Islâmic standards. He follows Islâmic etiquette in eating, drinking, giving salam, visiting people, entering their homes and sitting with them, and in other social activities. This is the clear, beautiful picture of the Muslim whose personality has been formed by Islâm and whose heart, mind and soul are filled with its divine light.

For man to reach this sublime level of noble virtues and morals and to translate them into a living reality on earth is the greatest achievement for which systems, laws, philosophies and ideologies may strive. It surpasses all other scientific and materialistic achievements which are known in our world today, and which dazzle us with their lights and colours. Man is the noblest and most precious of creatures, and all of the past efforts to establish human cultures have been aimed solely at achieving his happiness and elevating and honouring him. The way to honour him is by enhancing his humanity. The culture which concerns itself only with man’s lower desires, without developing and purifying his human nature and awakening his potential for good, is a culture that is sorely lacking. It has failed to fulfill the most important condition of human culture and has neglected the very humanity of man, which is his most valuable hidden asset.

All of the achievements and inventions of human civilization, such as cannons, missiles, satellites, transistors, television, video, etc., cannot replace the human aspect of man and indeed are worthless if they are not used to enhance his humanity, purify him and make him truly happy:

"By the Soul, and the proportion and order given to it. And its enlightenment as to its wrong and its right. Truly he succeeds that purifies it. And he fails that corrupts it!" (Qur’ân 91:7-10)

The development of a society is not measured solely in terms of its scientific achievements and material inventions. These are a factor, but there is another, more important, standard by which a society is also measured. That is the prevalence of human values such as love, empathy, altruism, sacrifice, uprightness and purity of thought, behaviour and dealings with others.

If individuals are the basis of a society, and the pillars upon which every social renaissance is built, then rightly-guided societies pay attention to human development and enhance the positive, constructive aspects while seeking to eliminate evil, destructive motives, so that the individual will become a model citizen. It is from groups of such model citizens that clean, civil, strong, healthy, righteous societies are formed.

The Islâmic society is one which is integrated and of superior quality, and the Muslim in such a society is of the highest class because of the teachings of his religion which have instilled in him the highest and noblest human attitudes, and encouraged him to adhere to them in the field of social relationships.

The backwardness, division, hatred and cutting off of ties that we see occurring at all levels — international, regional and individual — among the Muslims are clear evidence of how Muslims are ignoring and neglecting the strong bonds of faith and brotherhood enjoined by Allâh . Hence the misguided ideologies of jahiliyyah arose in the Muslim lands, and we have been overwhelmed by imported foreign principles which have brought poison and disease, and have made us like debris floating on the floodwaters. This would not have happened to the Muslims if their genuine Islâmic identity and the purity of their intellectual and spiritual sources had been preserved.

The attack against the Muslim world was conducted on two fronts. One was an assault directed against the Islªmic identity and aimed at distorting the Islâmic personality. The other was aimed at polluting the intellectual and spiritual sources, and diverting Muslims towards other, alien, sources. They managed in many Muslim lands to distort the Muslim identity and made the Muslims follow them like sheep in their intellectual matters and the way they behaved and felt. They deprived the Muslims of the values and morals of their religion, and took away the divine impetus which had brought them onto the stage of world history in such a remarkable fashion.

Nothing can restore the health and authenticity of the Muslim identity except a sincere return to the eternal way of Allâh , and a deep understanding of the mission with which the Muslim has been entrusted. This will enable the Muslims to fulfil their duty of conveying this message to mankind, after they have adopted it for themselves as an ideology and way of life.

When our misguided Ummah, which is lost in the mire of jahiliyyah, subordination and tribalism, finally returns to the cool shade of Allâh , it will once again be the free, strong, integrated, supportive, united Ummah that will never be defeated. Then it will be the Ummah of faith, and Allâh has promised in the Qur’ân to support the Ummah of faith:

"...and it was due from Us to aid those who believed." (Qur’an 30:47)


1. Ideal Muslim and His Self (Body, Mind, and Soul)
http://www.wefound.org/texts/Ideal_Muslims_files/HisSelf.htm

2. Ideal Muslim and His Rabb
http://www.wefound.org/texts/Ideal_Muslims_files/HisRabb.htm

3. Ideal Muslim and His Wife
http://www.wefound.org/texts/Ideal_Muslims_files/hiswife.htm

4. Ideal Muslim and His Community
http://www.islamfortoday.com/idealmuslim.htm

I could not find the links for the rest of the book... will keep an eye for it... the rest are the ideal muslim with his parents, children, neighbors, relatives, The Muslim and His Friends and Brothers in Islam.
This site shows the complete content of the book: http://www.wefound.org/e_contents_iman.htm

wassalamu alikom

Lulua
04-05-2002, 04:15
Assalaamu alaikum.

MashaAllah, sis...wonderful and inspiring article.

There are several points in particular, although for each person I assume certain points will stand out above the others.

I will relate to all an experience that I witnessed recently. In response to the recent events in Palestine, and the terrible torment and oppression that they are going through, many of the Arab states, and in particular the Gulf states, have had several periodical charity drives to donate to the cause of helping to rebuild the infrastructure of the Palestinians, and to help provide for them even the most basic necessities of life. Many of these charity drives were publicized on satellite television channels.

I can recall in particular the drive of the Saudis, in which many ppl would either call, email, write, or go in person to the various assigned stations, and donate or pledge their donations, including with the donation or pledge their name or association or group that they were donating for. This bothered me some. Mainly because I know that it is a basic tenet of Islam (not a requirement necessarily, but something which is preferred) that those who give charity are best to give it without making notice of themselves and what they give. This is part of the 'air' of charity.

The many, many people who donated in this manner...of stating their names (which was read by those attending to the charity collection on television) was so large and numerous that they began to seem as a sea of names, and no one seemed to pay too much attention. Then, with a call to the station, a prominent figure of the Saudi religious circles made clear his donation on behalf of his sons and families. It was a large sum, but for their known position and wealth, not a surprising sum. Nevertheless, the sheer announcement of his pledge, on behalf of himself and his family and his sons, still seemed to take a great deal away from the charity itself, making it seem cheap and superficial. As if it was merely a drive to publicize exactly who donated what and when and how much. Merely a publicity stunt to perhaps gain public respect and admiration. IMHO, it could have been done much better, by this man as well as by all concerned (even those broadcasting), to simply mention the numbers of the donations without mentioning the names connected with the donations.

During the first campaign of the donation collections maybe 2 years ago, there was a fantastic donation made. The station broadcasting out of Riyadh mentioned that one man came into their station carrying a terribly crumpled bag and enclosing in it a wad of money. They asked him who was donating, so that they may record the name for mention on air. He said only to mention that it was from a concerned person. No name. No family name, no personal name, no connection made whatsoever. He knew that his record would not be forgotten nor lost to Allah. After he left, the station personnel continued to count the amount in the bag, to find that it contained one million riyals. And yet this man refused to be known to anyone.

This is a great description of one aspect of a good muslim. One who donates to charity, yet does not like for others to know or to know how much.

In a hadith, it is mentioned (without exact quote), that a great description of a muslim in donating charity is one who's right hand does not know or realize what the left hand donates, and vice versa. In other words, he is so secretive to the people of his charity, that even his own hands are donating in separate ways one from the other, to the extent that if the hands had a mind to know things, one would not know what the other was donating and when.

Great attribute to attain to.

May we all aspire to such levels, and reach them.

Lulua.

Huda
04-05-2002, 04:42
:)

I want to say Jazaky Allah khairan for sharing... such a good point.... Indeed we must not do things for people.... there is a hadith i believe that if we do things for people's sake, we will get what we want... but no reward, and if we do it for Allah's sake only... then we get the reward and the people will like us because Allah will put the love of that person in the hearts of all...

Allah knows best if those who donated really wanted publicity or not... my best friend always reminds me and i learned it from her... to say always "purify your intention."

May Allah help us always be of those who do things only for his sake.

Huda
04-05-2002, 16:26
Here is a link to the "Ideal Muslimah"

This is the complete book... good read..
http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/humanrelations/womeninislam/idealmuslimah/

Sadiq
04-05-2002, 18:27
What about a 'ideal' wife? LOL

Maybe in the near future. I might need it!

Great articles....those who fear allah will always be successful. Before you do anything, just remember, will it take me towards paradise or buring hell?

Only two options, and only two outcomes in the end. Keep up the work sisters, and always remember your fellow muslims around the world (even me)..!

Sadiq

Huda
04-05-2002, 19:15
Akhee... the ideal wife is part of the ideal muslimah :) when u marry inshaAllah.... give ur wife a gift that book...and tell her apply it before u come to my house... then u'll have a perfect life inshaAllah. but make sure u apply the ideal muslim things.. u can't expect more than you give.

:) May Allah help us all do what is he loves and what will bring us closer to him inshaAllah.

Sadiq
04-05-2002, 19:52
Thankyou for your kind words.

I think i figured that out, as a ideal wife will surely contain the qualities of a a ideal muslimah.

And i will surely put a sign on my door saying ' Read this book **** before you come in' LOL

But inshallah allah will guide me and help me find my dear wife, and surely she will find me. Inshallah!

The arrow is also towards me, as you have stated, inshallah, as one cannot change the lights of new york in one day, one at a time, and slowly with the help of allah, i am going towards the ideal muslim role. ( i hope so)

Take care...Keep up the good work sis!

Sadiq!

Huda
04-05-2002, 20:43
[updated:LAST EDITED ON 04-05-02 AT 08:46 PM (GMT)]Ask Allah for help and he will help u... no one is perfect.. we are all working at improving ourselves one way or another... so... put ur trust in Allah...

I worked with a new convert once and i told him this (Don't know if it will help u... i personally find it helpful to keep me focused):

I said...
Imagine this world... there are two mountains.... between them there is a big valley, and a bridge. On one mountain is this world, with all its people... on the other is Heavens and Allah. In the valley there is hell fire... now imagine those who find Allah, are those who found the bridge (Islam).... now we must never look back... we should always look forward... and run to Allah... along the bridge.. u meet others who walk to Allah... and sadly some walk backwards away from Allah.. never let those who walk backwards take u with them... but keep walking towards Allah.. and DO NOT FALL. You might run, or maybe jog, or walk.... at least crowl.... but do not stay still...and if the least u can do is to stay still... hold onto the bridge...and stay still.. until you get more determination and then run. There are others on the bridge who walk towards Allah too... those... hold on to them... give them ur hand and go along with them... they will help u along... there are others who need u to hold their hand... take their hand... help them walk with u... soon, with the help of Allah, you will get to ur destiny.... and nothing will harm u there...

I see IWC exactly like this... some people are not on the bridge, they think if we go on the bridge we'll be harmed, and thus they try to hold us back and not allow us to go forward, others are looking for the bridge (and they are few) and yet others are already on the bridge, we try to help people towards Allah.... but we must remember we need to help each other ...

so brothers and sisters.... let us Run to Allah...

that convert i talked with... when i told him this story.. he said:

"Hand in Hand to Jannah Land" - I love this quote so much... it reminds me of the bridge, and how much i need to hold onto the people who can help me through it.... so lets run to Allah... to Jannah Land.