Lulua
10-02-2002, 10:41
Assalaamu alaikum.
The following was sent to me via email. Most of it is common sense sort of stuff, and things which many times women are not too thoughtful about. Although many times also the man is not too thoughtful about pleasing his wife, still a great responsibility for happy marital life lies upon a great effort put forth by the wife to please her husband. There may be some minor points not agreed upon by all, myself included. But please also be reminded that I am not the author of this. Just thought I would pass it on and share with others. A good reminder of pleasing things to do in preparation for the hubby coming home.
Lulua.
================================================== ===============THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious
meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that
you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men
are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially
his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 mins to rest so you'll be refreshed when he
arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be
fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little *** and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may
need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house
just before your husband arrives.
Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dustcloth over the
tables.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for
him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and
order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort
will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children. Take a few mins to wash the childrens' hands and faces
(if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.
They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimise all noise. AT the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the
washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show incerity in your
desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the
moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember his
topics of converstation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to
dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to
understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at
home and relax.
Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and
tranquility where your hushand can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all
night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that
day.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him
lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing
and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or
integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always
exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to
question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
--------------------------------------------------------
Housekeeping Monthly - 13th May, 1955
The following was sent to me via email. Most of it is common sense sort of stuff, and things which many times women are not too thoughtful about. Although many times also the man is not too thoughtful about pleasing his wife, still a great responsibility for happy marital life lies upon a great effort put forth by the wife to please her husband. There may be some minor points not agreed upon by all, myself included. But please also be reminded that I am not the author of this. Just thought I would pass it on and share with others. A good reminder of pleasing things to do in preparation for the hubby coming home.
Lulua.
================================================== ===============THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious
meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that
you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men
are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially
his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 mins to rest so you'll be refreshed when he
arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be
fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
Be a little *** and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may
need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house
just before your husband arrives.
Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dustcloth over the
tables.
Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for
him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and
order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort
will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children. Take a few mins to wash the childrens' hands and faces
(if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.
They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimise all noise. AT the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the
washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show incerity in your
desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the
moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember his
topics of converstation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to
dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to
understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at
home and relax.
Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and
tranquility where your hushand can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all
night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that
day.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him
lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing
and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or
integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always
exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to
question him.
A good wife always knows her place.
--------------------------------------------------------
Housekeeping Monthly - 13th May, 1955