Hasan
07-10-2001, 13:08
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Meriful.
Assalamualaikum my brothers and sisters of the deen and warm greetings to any students or those just interested in Islam that may read this.
This is my first visit to this site and I must say I'm more than pleased at what I have found here thus far. It's a great comfort to my heart seeing other believers holding fast to the deen and making such great efforts in dawah. Everyone that is a regular poster on this board has impressed me with their sincerity, educated input, and respect for one another in such a way that I can feel just from reading you have the heart of a true believer.
You'll have to forgive me for pointing you out and bringing extra attention to you sister, but I have most certainly enjoyed and appreciated just about everything you have posted here Om Mohammad.
Enough of the formalities and on with my reason for posting here.
Like the rest of the world, I was born Muslim, but by the mercy of Allah have been raised Muslim as well. I'm familiar with how we as Muslims should conduct ourselves post marriage, in order to keep us from shameful deeds and remain modest and humble. I'm also familiarizing myself more and more with how we should condcut ourselves throughout marriage, because in doing so correctly even after the rituals of marriage both husband and wife remain "pure" in a sense by protecting each other.
My question lies in the more sensitive part where many find themselves in a gray area, which is finding one's mate. My heart, body, soul, and finances tell me that marriage is the next step for me and something i'm ready for. And though at times part of me is eager to dive into it, this is not something I want to do incorrectly as in doing so can have a serious neagtive impact on me in this life and the next.
So again, i'm looking for educated advice in seeking a muslim wife, which probably means finding some wali's. I would also like to know if there are stages of this process and if so what are they? Like once you think you've found a prospect what is the "getting-to-know" them stage and if you find that you are not compatible when and how to you call it off? My concern is being able to get to know someone is compatible without hurting the feelings of those who you think are not. Obviously one should take a business like approach, but we all know that the soft hearts of Muslims (alhumdulilah!) looking for marriage can be fragile at times and should be handled with care.
In my mind Islam works best through community life. This way it's much easier to find and know mates as you may have grown up with them and already be familiar with their family. Unfortunatly my community is pretty small(I live in DE), but alhumdulilah, the Islamic community is of great size. The only problem is getting to know them.
My apologies for writing so much, I know I dont like reading long post. I await any advice you may have for me inshallah.
Salaam.
Assalamualaikum my brothers and sisters of the deen and warm greetings to any students or those just interested in Islam that may read this.
This is my first visit to this site and I must say I'm more than pleased at what I have found here thus far. It's a great comfort to my heart seeing other believers holding fast to the deen and making such great efforts in dawah. Everyone that is a regular poster on this board has impressed me with their sincerity, educated input, and respect for one another in such a way that I can feel just from reading you have the heart of a true believer.
You'll have to forgive me for pointing you out and bringing extra attention to you sister, but I have most certainly enjoyed and appreciated just about everything you have posted here Om Mohammad.
Enough of the formalities and on with my reason for posting here.
Like the rest of the world, I was born Muslim, but by the mercy of Allah have been raised Muslim as well. I'm familiar with how we as Muslims should conduct ourselves post marriage, in order to keep us from shameful deeds and remain modest and humble. I'm also familiarizing myself more and more with how we should condcut ourselves throughout marriage, because in doing so correctly even after the rituals of marriage both husband and wife remain "pure" in a sense by protecting each other.
My question lies in the more sensitive part where many find themselves in a gray area, which is finding one's mate. My heart, body, soul, and finances tell me that marriage is the next step for me and something i'm ready for. And though at times part of me is eager to dive into it, this is not something I want to do incorrectly as in doing so can have a serious neagtive impact on me in this life and the next.
So again, i'm looking for educated advice in seeking a muslim wife, which probably means finding some wali's. I would also like to know if there are stages of this process and if so what are they? Like once you think you've found a prospect what is the "getting-to-know" them stage and if you find that you are not compatible when and how to you call it off? My concern is being able to get to know someone is compatible without hurting the feelings of those who you think are not. Obviously one should take a business like approach, but we all know that the soft hearts of Muslims (alhumdulilah!) looking for marriage can be fragile at times and should be handled with care.
In my mind Islam works best through community life. This way it's much easier to find and know mates as you may have grown up with them and already be familiar with their family. Unfortunatly my community is pretty small(I live in DE), but alhumdulilah, the Islamic community is of great size. The only problem is getting to know them.
My apologies for writing so much, I know I dont like reading long post. I await any advice you may have for me inshallah.
Salaam.