Mardhiah
18-05-2002, 16:55
Assalamualaikum Wr Wb,
What does a family made of? Basically, a father, a mother and most importantly children as they are the reflections of the family background.If they are taken care in good manner and then grow up and become somebody, the benefits are not only felt by their family but also the community.A child who was given enough Islamic teachings and practiced them with his own will is able to pray for his parents,insya' Allah, when they pass away.Sad to say, if he is a shameful person just because of his negligent parents, they will soon be asked in the hereafter on their responsibility in bringing up their child, nauzubillahi min zalik.
To keep the virtue of children and the next generations,Islam has told men to search for a partner with a wide Islamic knowledge, so she can be pious and smart at educating children.“Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husband’s property)” (al-Nisaa’ 4:34).The prophet p.b.u.h said: ((Women may be married for four things: wealth, beauty, lineage or religious commitment. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper) )).
A new born child is pure and clean from any sins, just like a pieace of white cloth.It is up to the parents to design a nice image on it or the otherwise.From sahih Bukhari:
Narrated Abu Huraira :
Allah's Apostle said, "Every child is born with a true faith of Islam (i.e. to worship none but Allah Alone) but his parents convert him to Judaism, Christianity or Magainism, as an animal delivers a perfect baby animal. Do you find it mutilated?" Then Abu Huraira recited the holy verses: "The pure Allah's Islamic nature (true faith of Islam) (i.e. worshipping none but Allah) with which He has created human beings. No change let there be in the religion of Allah (i.e. joining none in worship with Allah). That is the straight religion (Islam) but most of men know, not." (30.30).
It is a nature of parents to love their offsprings, as for that, the love has to into the teachings of Islam.Do not be hasty because it can damage the children's soul and future.Parents must perform orders guided by Islam towards their children from birth until puberty.Educate and bring them up wisely, in a form of advise though sometimes it has to be a warning.Beating is the last way to solve anything if the situation needs it.Then try not to compare a child with another and avoid the attitude of hating daughters like what those people of 'jahiliah' did.
When a child has grown up and still having both mother and father, hence it is obligatory to take good care of them because they have given everything to bring him up with full of hardship.This is streesed in the Quran, 17:23-24, " Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.
And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."
Base on the verse, it is clear that resposibility to serve parents at old age is upon their child, even though he already has his own family.He must provide enough expenses for them if they do not have any or uncapable of working.At the same time, good manners, respect and appopriate attention should be given to them.Do not be arrogant or feel fed up to serve our parents when they have already done a great duty towards us.Do not ever feel that our services are much more graeter than theirs because their services are far off alot that what we give.
According to Islam, to have old folks or small kids in the house can bring in blessings (barkah and rahmah).Thus, it is not appopriate for a Muslim to dismiss or expel his parents out of his house, for example sending them to the old folks home.Form sahih Muslim, ((Abu Huraira reported Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) as saying: Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: Allah's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise)).
It can be concluded from the hadiths that a Muslim can easily enter heaven if he keeps on taking care of his parents and giving them services.However, if he does not, then it is clear that he does not want such reward and is booking a place in hell, Nauzubillah!
Mardhiah
What does a family made of? Basically, a father, a mother and most importantly children as they are the reflections of the family background.If they are taken care in good manner and then grow up and become somebody, the benefits are not only felt by their family but also the community.A child who was given enough Islamic teachings and practiced them with his own will is able to pray for his parents,insya' Allah, when they pass away.Sad to say, if he is a shameful person just because of his negligent parents, they will soon be asked in the hereafter on their responsibility in bringing up their child, nauzubillahi min zalik.
To keep the virtue of children and the next generations,Islam has told men to search for a partner with a wide Islamic knowledge, so she can be pious and smart at educating children.“Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husband’s property)” (al-Nisaa’ 4:34).The prophet p.b.u.h said: ((Women may be married for four things: wealth, beauty, lineage or religious commitment. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper) )).
A new born child is pure and clean from any sins, just like a pieace of white cloth.It is up to the parents to design a nice image on it or the otherwise.From sahih Bukhari:
Narrated Abu Huraira :
Allah's Apostle said, "Every child is born with a true faith of Islam (i.e. to worship none but Allah Alone) but his parents convert him to Judaism, Christianity or Magainism, as an animal delivers a perfect baby animal. Do you find it mutilated?" Then Abu Huraira recited the holy verses: "The pure Allah's Islamic nature (true faith of Islam) (i.e. worshipping none but Allah) with which He has created human beings. No change let there be in the religion of Allah (i.e. joining none in worship with Allah). That is the straight religion (Islam) but most of men know, not." (30.30).
It is a nature of parents to love their offsprings, as for that, the love has to into the teachings of Islam.Do not be hasty because it can damage the children's soul and future.Parents must perform orders guided by Islam towards their children from birth until puberty.Educate and bring them up wisely, in a form of advise though sometimes it has to be a warning.Beating is the last way to solve anything if the situation needs it.Then try not to compare a child with another and avoid the attitude of hating daughters like what those people of 'jahiliah' did.
When a child has grown up and still having both mother and father, hence it is obligatory to take good care of them because they have given everything to bring him up with full of hardship.This is streesed in the Quran, 17:23-24, " Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.
And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."
Base on the verse, it is clear that resposibility to serve parents at old age is upon their child, even though he already has his own family.He must provide enough expenses for them if they do not have any or uncapable of working.At the same time, good manners, respect and appopriate attention should be given to them.Do not be arrogant or feel fed up to serve our parents when they have already done a great duty towards us.Do not ever feel that our services are much more graeter than theirs because their services are far off alot that what we give.
According to Islam, to have old folks or small kids in the house can bring in blessings (barkah and rahmah).Thus, it is not appopriate for a Muslim to dismiss or expel his parents out of his house, for example sending them to the old folks home.Form sahih Muslim, ((Abu Huraira reported Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) as saying: Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: Allah's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise)).
It can be concluded from the hadiths that a Muslim can easily enter heaven if he keeps on taking care of his parents and giving them services.However, if he does not, then it is clear that he does not want such reward and is booking a place in hell, Nauzubillah!
Mardhiah