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Salam Alikom All!
I really never knew what Muslims went through until I coverted. It really opened my eyes, especially after I converted on Augsut 25, 2002.
I started school this year, and everything was going great. I had a great group of friends, and some of them I still talk to, although most have really turned away.
Once they knew I was Muslim, they distanced themselves, or made excuses to hang out or other such things.
I tried to wear my hijab to school, and I got forbidden. They called it a safety hazard, and a distraction in the learning environment. They said that if I wore it again, that they would suspend me, or even expell me.
I am being tormented more and more each day in school. People calling me a taliban supporter, or an Osama Bin Laden sympathizer.
It pains me so much to hear this, because why cant they understand that I am a person just like them. Equal! I can do what they can, and I can possibly do alot more things better. Its like they do not want to get to know the real me because they are too scared.
But what are they scared of? Scared of faith, scared of truth, scared of understanding? What is there to be scared of? I am a follower of the greatest God that anyone has ever believed in, and the only righteous one, Allah. Is this so hard for people to understand?
Yes, I may not wear the clothes they wear, or wear my hair the way they do, or cover my face with make up to make myself seem more beautiful, but I dont need clothing or jewelry or make up to make me beautiful. I am beautiful in my own natural. I am a Muslimah.
JuicyCracker
14-01-2003, 00:23
Rose, I know I will never have any idea what you go through everyday, but I just want you to know you have more courage then anyone I know. You support your faith unquestionally even when friends start rejecting you because of it. You have opened my eyes to the muslim religion which I had not really admired, or even cared for before now. I just wanted to say that you are truly an ispiration to not only other muslims, but to me as well.
-Juicy :)
Dear Sis Rose.. Assalamu Alikom...
As Juicy said... you are an inspiration... a couragous young Muslimah who has faith....
I want you to know dear.... or maybe just remind u of things I mentioned maybe long time ago to u.... being a Muslim will not be an easy road... but its one where no matter what happends... your heart wlil have peace... you will be happy....you wlil be loved and will love... for Allah's sake...
Sister.... it amazes me how the many non Muslims call us names... claim that we have no feelings.... and I wonder what they call themselves. It amazes me how they claim to have democracy... which I see little of practiced in their own homes.... and it amazes me how they claim to be the "protectors" of peace... when they are to many... the source of horror, pain and suffering. I know there are many who are not that bad... but there is a significant number who is worse....
all we can do dear... is pray to Allah...and hold tight into our faith...and ask Allah .. for forgiveness... guidance to all...
all we can do.. is be an example, be a role model... be a representative of Islam... ISlam... the religion of strength, love, understanding, order, peace, submission....
They might think we are not really "human" like them... they can look at us with strange looks... they might see us as "aliens".... but at the end of the day.... when we go to bed.... we have faith, conviction, belief, and most importantly peace in our hearts... knowing that we prostrate to the Lord of the Worlds... the One True God... in submission and devotion... with conviction and belief.... and when they go to bed.... they have their envy... for our strength, hatred and jelousy for and from truth... truth which they know with their hearts...
so bear with it sweet sister....and know that you will reach the end of the journey... happy... satisfied...and with the first step u put in Jannah, you will forget the pain.... forget the hard times...and know only happiness....and satisfaction... so have patience sis.... and stay close to Allah... for He only can give u peace .. and HE only can heal our pains...
know that each step of hardship you have in this world... is a step higher in the hierarchy of Paradise.... and that with each suffering you have... ur rank has just been raised....
They will give us soon sis... when they see ur devotion... Satan will know that he has no control over u... for Allah said to Satan, control them and let them be evil.... with whatever means u want... except my righteous and devout followers... those you have no control over....
it keeps coming sis.. the pain.. the suffering... until you meet Allah... pure of sins... for it is a mean of erasing the sins... until you meet Allah....and enter into Paradise... amongst the prophets, and righteous... inshaAllah.... with our beloved.. Mohammad peace and blessings be upon him and His companions.
May Allah make us amongst them dear.... and may He give us strength to hold onto truth...and to live truth. May Allah unite us in Paradise ... where we will finally have peace...
I love you dear sis... for the sake of Allah...and admire the faith you gained so quickly... I pray that Allah keeps u steadfast...increase ur faith more and more... and have mercy on you and change ur pain... with pleasure in this world...and then in the other world... Ameen.
what a woderful lessons you gave it ...
but believe me sis. that Allah with you whenever & wherever you need...but be patiant because it is a TEST and you have to pass it.
and don't forget that you will get the 'AJER' two times than we get it...and as it said NO PAIN NO GAIN..
may Allah bless ,guide and make you firm in your faith
and we 'll pray to you
as salaam alaikum
am i allowed in the teen area?? an old woman like myself :)
anyway excuse me butting in but couldn't resist. Sister it may be hard for you to imagine but you have a great opporturnity to educate.
One thing, do you go to a public school? because if you do the school would be hard pressed to support a position of "fire safety" and if used constructively it can be used to actually educate your class. I would suggest you contact CAIR and see exactly what your rights are as student, violating your freedom of religion is not a good thing. Maybe your school can be made aware of that. But a public school can NOT hinder you from wearing hijab. A private school can dictate a bit more on clothing, but if your in a public school.. mention of 'lawyer' and 'law suit' will most likely calm them down and bring them back over to reality.
here is there website http://www.cair-net.org/
Are there any other muslims in your school? if so make contact w/ them and form a support group. There is strength in numbers.
Also contact your local Masjids and find out if there is any support they can give. By this I mean by being visible in your school, contacting your principle offer to give an educated presentantion of Islam and Muslims in your school. Even if denied it can be put to the school board. this would be a great way for your fellow students to actually learn instead of mock you. And they do it out of ingorance, fear and wanting to be seen as 'cool' (whatever you youngins call that these days lol)
This is your jihad.. and it won't be easy by a long shot. but take all that negativity and learn to use it in a positive way to give dawah. You just migh suprise yourself how open people are as soon as they start to learn and not be so afraid of things.
But is is majorly important for you to find support.. start contacting other sisters who have been through just what you have. I know a sister who was the only public muslim (she wore hijab) throughout her school years.. and it was tough. But as time went on they saw her for who she was. rather than just that moslem girl.
Also a suggesting find out if there is a local muslim student association in your area. http://www.msa-natl.org/ get in contact becuase they tend to be more motivated in action plans than local masjids.
But don't be afriad to put a fire under the muslims butts to help you out.. sometimes they need it. And don't be afraid to stand tall through those school halls dear sister
now back to the old folks section of IWC :)
Assalaamu alaikum.
Kinda like Sr. Nzingha...I am rather out of place here in the teen arena. But in viewing what's going on here...just couldn't refrain from adding my own two cents...in case anyone's interested.
Oh...my dearest sister Rose...I do feel ur pain and frustration. It is hard...I know. But let me also remind u that u are not alone, sis. For as we are told in the Quran...as a reminder of consolation for those going thru hard times (whether as is ur case now...or other problems such as perhaps medical problems or family problems or whatever problem it is that comes along in life)...that others too have gone thru something of similar pain and frustration before us.
Sis...both sr. Nzingha and I know first hand...how it is to be ridiculed by friends or co-workers or family or mere acquaintances in the non-muslim environment...for we ourselves come from similar situations to urself. I cannot speak exactly for Nzingha...but I can vouch for myself...that I surely went thru (and still do...to some extent...from family and past friends who are not muslims)...ridicule and hard looks and other hard and difficult times...due to my conversion to Islam. And my choice or my adherance to the laws of the hijab.
It is something that...although the difficulty of it may not completely subside...u eventually get used to. Be patient...and be firm in your own conviction of wearing this hijab...and make sure that ur intention is to please Allah in doing so. For when u do that, u have a great reward in store for you one day, inshaAllah.
Remember, too, sis...that the companions of the prophet(SAAW) and the first muslims...went thru so much greater hardship than we ever do today. Sure, sis...when we are facing hard times with fellow students, previous friends who now turn us off because of our Islam, or family who ridicule us and try to force us or impression us into following their ways and their desires...we view it quite logically as a very hard opposition. But it is nothing truly compared to the difficulties and true torture that those early muslims faced.
Bilal...who was the prophet's(SAAW) designated 'muaddhin'...the one who calls for the prayer..(the prophet, SAAW, personally requested of this man...an early muslim...to call for the prayer...due to his beautiful tone of voice)...was tortured by the Quraish (the main tribe in Makkah at the time)...in the hot desert sun...hot nails were torturously pressed into his chest...and they were telling him that they would release the torture if he would only lay claim to belief in their gods...but his response was only:
'ahad...ahad'....meaning 'one...one'...which indicates his own insistance to his belief in the ONE and ONLY God...Allah. For the torture was so great that he could not manage to get out other than that one word...but it was enough to guarantee him a place in Jannah (heaven)...for his adherance to the belief in 'tawheed'...or the 'oneness' of God. Allah.
SubhanAllah. Glory be to Allah!!
And the many stories go on and on. But I will cease here.
Just remember, dear sis, that we are all here to support you...and we certainly pray for you and your guidance and your strength as u grow as a muslimah.
One more point...I like to refer to the hijab as the muslimah's flag ... a physical outer sign of her adherance in her belief of Allah and the commands of Allah. It is something that she herself should never be shy of wearing, nor ashamed of...and something that her muslim family (husband, brother, or other family members)...should never be ashamed or embarrassed to have her wear. It is a great discussion-starter anywhere...and an excellent opportunity for her to turn possible ridicule and complaints by others into an opportunity to express to them what Islam is and what it is about. I hope and pray that you shall learn to do that yourself, dear sister.
I will cease for now...but I have more to relay to you in reference to this...real-life stories which I hope and pray you shall find as a source of inspiration and gaining strength.
Now...as Sr. Nzingha...back to the elder's section of the IWC.:)
Lulua.
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