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lubna
02-03-2005, 22:00
A woman named Emily renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk's office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. "What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are you just a .....?
"Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a Mom."
"We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation... 'housewife' covers it," said the recorder emphatically! .
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like, "Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."
"What is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it, I do not know... The words simply popped out.
"I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.
"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I have a continuing program of research in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters and already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers, and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door. As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model in the child-development program (my 6 month old baby) testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished! d and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mom."
Motherhood...what a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the door.
Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers "Executive Senior Research Associates"? I think so! I also think it makes Aunts "Associate Research Assistants."
you can send this to another Mom, Grandmother, Aunt, and other friends you know.

Zainab
03-03-2005, 20:20
AA

Lol. :p :p :p
Very funny sis Lubna :)

AH
Zainab :D

tbahrain
04-03-2005, 02:45
Assalamualaikum, sis lubna,

What about us fathers and grandfathers? :(

lubna
04-03-2005, 13:07
Assalamoalykum dear brother tbahrain

well, your gender enjoys all those titles in their literal forms out side the domestice world. arent you happy with that? we women only used them in metaphorical forms cos we had to, and not that we want to. otherwise we are quite happy and proud to be mum and house wife Alhumdulillah.

ok let me tell you what you want to hear now :) ..... you are our equal business partners AS WELL AS our Bosses !! :) :)

and you and us didnt choose our roles ourselves but Allah swt allocated us, and who can disagree with Allah? Alhumdulillah i am so greatful to Allah for what he has made me!

may Allah guide us all to the truth Ameen
wassalam
truely your sister in islam
lubna

tbahrain
07-03-2005, 07:59
Dear sis lubnan,

See, it's not that difficult to say, isn't it? Though many (I included) would prefer without the 'boss' .

lubna
07-03-2005, 19:59
respected brother
it has never been and never will be difficult for me to say inshaALlah... :)
to be a muslim is, to say the truth even if it goes against your own self! isnt that right bro...... :)

i beleive in having a boss to blame everything on his ' poor management'... ;)

and as for the secret of me being happy with my status of mother and house wife is, that Allah has given responsibilty/authority to one gender and respect/affection to other... all we as slaves of Allah have to do now is be happy with our roles and never complain!

may Allah guide us all to the truth, and keep us steadfast on HIS deen islam Ameen
wassalam
lubna

here is one of my favourit nasheed sung by a child....:)


Your Mother - Rasheed A Bhikha

Lyrics
Who should I give my love to?
My respect and my honour to?
Who should I pay good mind to?
After Allah
And Rasulullah
Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

'Cause who used to hold you
And clean you and clothe you?
Who used to feed you
And always be with you?
When you were sick - stay up all night
Holding you tight?
That's right, no other -
My mother
Who should I take good care of
Giving all my love?
Who should I think the most of?
After Allah
And Rasulullah
Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father
'Cause who used to hear you
Before you could talk?
Who used to hold you
Before you could walk?
And when you fell
Who'd pick you up?
Clean your cut?
No one but your mother -
My mother
Who should I stay right close to?
Listen most to?
Never say no to?
After Allah
And Rasulullah
Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father
'Cause who used to hug you
And buy you new clothes?
Comb your hair and blow your nose?
And when you cried
Who wiped your tears?
Knows your fears?
Who really cares?
My mother
Say Alhamdulillah
Thank You Allah
Thank You Allah for my mother

tbahrain
08-03-2005, 09:37
Dear Sis Lubna,

Would I have expected anything different from you? Well said! Well said!

Thank you for the nasyeed. Makes me think of my late beloved Mother, may Allah bless her soul, ameen.

your brother in Islam

tbahrain