hariskhan
03-08-2008, 07:03
Assalam-o-Alaikum ALL,
1) Is 'mangni' (in Urdu) part of Islam? The ceremony to bind to people together by 'word' of mouth between families, untill marriage.
Is this another one of the traditions that we have created ourselves?
2) My family has selected a girl for me. She's from a respectable, influential family, my parents say. 'She is bound to be religious, if her family is' my mother says. They are from NWFP, in Pakistan. Yes, I also agree, in NWFP, people are more religious than in other parts of the country. Her family/parents have many links to other people of power or people who are known for one thing or the other.
The girl isn't bad. She's doing her BBA, she's confident, she's .. well skinny (by my standards)
I have a hard time selecting a girl. I have studied with, worked with many, but it seems, my choice is just too 'perfect' to exist. As a result I have made friends, but have always kept myself at a distance.
I'm looking for something in between, someone who holds religion above all, someone chubby. Educated, but not to the level that she forgets her primary responsibilities, to the level so we can have fun, a healthy life. Someone tall, confident, someone who can think, not corrupt or greedy of materials as they say.
I have performed Istikhara, though erratically thus far. I perform it one day then forget it the next day. So far, ALLAH salawatuhu has not indicated anything in the days I have performed it, so I'm confused whether to say 'yes' or 'no'.
What should I do?
M. Istehbab
1) Is 'mangni' (in Urdu) part of Islam? The ceremony to bind to people together by 'word' of mouth between families, untill marriage.
Is this another one of the traditions that we have created ourselves?
2) My family has selected a girl for me. She's from a respectable, influential family, my parents say. 'She is bound to be religious, if her family is' my mother says. They are from NWFP, in Pakistan. Yes, I also agree, in NWFP, people are more religious than in other parts of the country. Her family/parents have many links to other people of power or people who are known for one thing or the other.
The girl isn't bad. She's doing her BBA, she's confident, she's .. well skinny (by my standards)
I have a hard time selecting a girl. I have studied with, worked with many, but it seems, my choice is just too 'perfect' to exist. As a result I have made friends, but have always kept myself at a distance.
I'm looking for something in between, someone who holds religion above all, someone chubby. Educated, but not to the level that she forgets her primary responsibilities, to the level so we can have fun, a healthy life. Someone tall, confident, someone who can think, not corrupt or greedy of materials as they say.
I have performed Istikhara, though erratically thus far. I perform it one day then forget it the next day. So far, ALLAH salawatuhu has not indicated anything in the days I have performed it, so I'm confused whether to say 'yes' or 'no'.
What should I do?
M. Istehbab