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27-02-2009, 06:01
Question: I am in a situation where my mother is married to a man who doesn't treat women properly. He often marries others and divorces them without reason. He mistreats my mother's children and speaks ill of us to others. We advised him but he didn't pay attention to us. What is your advice to him and to us because I don't want to be with my mother when he is around?
Answer: Firstly you should be keen on advising him and it should be clarified to him that what he is doing is impermissible and he should be reminded of Allaah سبحانه وتعالى. If he does not accept advice from you then try and get someone else to advise him, someone who he respects or someone who he may accept advice from such as the Imaam of a masjid or the principal of a school or anyone he respects.
As for your not liking to be around your mother when he is around, then in this issue the benefits should be examined. If there is a greater benefit in staying with your mother when he is present then you should stay and be patient. However, if there is harm in staying with them at that time, then perhaps it is better for you to leave. In any case you should examine the harms and the benefits involved and you should do what brings benefit - whether to you, your mother or all of you. At the same time you should keep making du`aa (supplication) for him, that Allaah سبحانه وتعالى guides him to the haqq (truth) Inshaa Allaah.
Answered by: Shaykh Ali at-Tuwayjari
Title of Lecture: Seeking Knowledge
Date of the Lecture: February 24, 2007
Listen to Lecture: Click Here (http://www.albaseerah.org/audio/raazi.htm)
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Answer: Firstly you should be keen on advising him and it should be clarified to him that what he is doing is impermissible and he should be reminded of Allaah سبحانه وتعالى. If he does not accept advice from you then try and get someone else to advise him, someone who he respects or someone who he may accept advice from such as the Imaam of a masjid or the principal of a school or anyone he respects.
As for your not liking to be around your mother when he is around, then in this issue the benefits should be examined. If there is a greater benefit in staying with your mother when he is present then you should stay and be patient. However, if there is harm in staying with them at that time, then perhaps it is better for you to leave. In any case you should examine the harms and the benefits involved and you should do what brings benefit - whether to you, your mother or all of you. At the same time you should keep making du`aa (supplication) for him, that Allaah سبحانه وتعالى guides him to the haqq (truth) Inshaa Allaah.
Answered by: Shaykh Ali at-Tuwayjari
Title of Lecture: Seeking Knowledge
Date of the Lecture: February 24, 2007
Listen to Lecture: Click Here (http://www.albaseerah.org/audio/raazi.htm)
Read the Transcribed Lecture: Click Here (http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showthread.php?t=3106)